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I met you when you were a big deal corporate title and responsibility.

I've received coaching from you.

I was impressed with who you were then, but I love how you just keep getting better and better. When you're delighted, it casts that sunrise hope on a clear day after an atmospheric river storm of many days.

You are all that.

I listened to this first thing this morning and found it so important to what I was facing today. Biting the bullet on car repair. I'm a Point A to Point B kind a girl. Still driving the best car I ever had; a 1998 Toyota Corolla. Once heard on CBS SUNDAY MORNING that it's better to keep a Corolla than keep getting Prius. Long time ago. I want to make this car last as long as humanly possible. Only 118k. Then also thinking about the xanthomas I'm having burned off below my left eye in March. Facing the things I'd rather not face. Facing the bear. Hadn't even looked at all the great visuals you added. I especially love the one where the bear is scratching his back on the tree. Delightful.

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Hugging a bear can be dangerous yet very fulfilling. I seem to have one thing in common with today’s blog, which is of a “desirable age.” What does that mean? Really. I know that in the work I was doing before COVID-19, I worked with young musicians and created my own company, Merchants of Music. I still own the name. Could I rebuild that company? But will I invest the blood, sweat, and tears again? Or moving on to other options in my life, I gather no moss. I am working on writing, and if I hug that bear, what could I find out? I know that gremlins are fighting with me on this battlefield. Is your writing worthwhile? You could never get published? No one wants to read what you have to say. Hugging this bear is the one in front of me today. What’s the worst that could happen? I have some fantastic stories I have written and completed. Is that so bad?

Oh, those pesky gremlins! I believe that many of your discussions, classes, and other areas of my life have made me more aware of the gremlins and their evil desires. I can then try and confront them and quiet them for a bit.

I believe I am in one of those phases of hard truths now. I may be in a situation where I need to depend more on myself and not travel the “regular” job/career road. I also have to realize that while I have many skills and talents, I have also done many, many different things in my careers. I don’t know what I want to be when I grow up. What this has done for me is made me realize that yes, I have done many interesting things and not traveled a straight line to anything, so now I need to be comfortable with the idea that my path is my path and it is different than others. I can make choices based on where I may go and not what someone thinks I should go. Does that make sense?

Well, the latest time when things were not perfect was when I lost that job.

I feel that I presently encounter the age issue always, now. Nothing significant either seems to be something that is holding me back I guess. No booking big venues or big shows. This is interesting to consider. When my first high school wrestling coach died last August, one of the speakers at the funeral was a guy I had also coached and became my assistant coach at once. When David spoke about Coach Freddie, he said that in a world where everything is either bad or excellent, Coach was good, and we don’t have enough good in the world today. So, I think being good has a place.

“Hugging the Bear” to me is get up off your ass and do it! I have many projects that I can do, especially since I am in a self-regulated space. Doing the projects or work that would be important to me would allow for growth in several spaces. I have several bears to hug, I think.

“Hugging the bear” daily would mean facing the projects that sit and look back at me with “longing eyes” for completion. It would quiet gremlins that want to fight with me on these projects. “Oh, another hour of Netflix won’t matter,” says the gremlin. And then it turns into 3 hours. The changes would be to be more focused on getting a project done instead of saying well, I can do that later.

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